Advice to a New Mommy

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A sweet blogging friend is about to have her first baby.  The beautiful and talented Jen from My Kitchen Addiction!

She will soon be experiencing her baby’s first coo, her first glance, her first smile.

(Original design credit to Amber Bracegirdle)

She is about to know what the old saying feels like, “Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” –Elizabeth Stone

And while I cant be there to help her with laundry or make her meals, but I can offer her some unsolicited advice.

Eat.  Dont forget to eat.  After my first child was born I cant tell you how many meals I prepared that I never ate.  Sandwiches on the counter.  Food in the microwave.  Pasta on the stove.  I would hear my sweet babies newborn cries and drop everything to sooth him.  But rest assured, he will wait thirty seconds while you finish that smoothie.  Nourish thyself, and you will be more able to take excellent care of her!

Share.  It was months before anyone got to hold my baby.  I want to say maybe even a year.  And even then it was only because they had to physically pry him away from me.  I was so completely in hopeless love with him that I had to have him near me at all time.  I knew what was best for him, and only me! (Ok, looking back I might have been a tad over dramatic.)  But it will be ok.  If your mom or your neighbor or your Fed Ex delivery guys wants to hold the baby, its ok.  They will give her back, promise.  And it will do you good to have a moment to see your angel loving cared for while you do nothing but look on and relax!

Write it Down. This is one of those, “Do as I say and not as I do”.  I didnt write things down because I was sure I would remember.  Well, I forgot.  Get a cheap notebook or a magnetic notepad for your fridge.  Write the date and whatever moment captured your attention.  It will take thirty seconds at most and will be priceless to you in the years to come!

If you are really, really motivated, grab your phone and snap a picture of your baby every day.  You can upload a “Photo 365” journey app like this one.  All the hard work is done for you!

Reflect.  Take the time to stare into her eyes and be thankful for that moment.  Be thankful for her birth, for your amazing birth story, for every moment that led to her now being a part of your lives.

Enjoy how sacred and precious and wonderful this time is!

A few friends got together to celebrate  Virtual Baby Shower for Jen.  Be sure to stop by and see all the amazing dishes!

Bluebonnets & Brownies | Raspberry Lemon Fruit Dip
Sugarcrafter | Sweet Potato Cake with Honey Buttercream
My Baking Addiction | Mini Pumpkin Pies
Simple Bites | English Eccles Cakes
Stetted | Roasted Red Pepper and Caramelized Onion Dip
Food for my Family | Homemade Pear Italian Sodas with Cardamom Cream
eat. live. travel. write. | Goat Cheese and Tomato Tartlettes
Gimme Some Oven | Creamy Caramel Apple Dippers
Dessert For Two | Caramel Apple Cookie Cups
Bake at 350 | Soft Sugar Cookies for a Baby Shower
A Thought For Food | Fingerling Potato Salad
TidyMom | Apple Pomegranate Spritzers
Healthy Green Kitchen | Guacamole with Pistachios
Tracey’s Culinary Adventures | Caramelized Onion, Gruyere and Bacon Spread
What Megan’s Making | Apple Spice Muffins
Cookin’ Canuck | Gorgonzola Cheese Cups with Pear & Hazelnut Salad
Bellalimento | Frozen Berry Shortcake
Shugary Sweets | Caramel Apple Truffles
GoodLife Eats | Coconut Lemon Banana Bread


We love you Jen and are so excited for you!




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  1. dionne says

    take pictures–you can never take enough pictures!!! they change so fast–expressions, size etc. get a good digital camera and snap away–while they nap, when they sleep, after baths, you cuddling them–all those moments that slip away so fast. Sleep–whenever and however you can–something that I often found hard to do–but if you husband or neighbor or mother or other says “hey i’ll watch them for an hour go nap” do it!!!!! Sometime in the first three months–go away for a night by yourself and have your husband or significant other watch the baby–and don’t call him. It is important that all of you learn that daddy/sig other can do what mommy does! Alternate bedtime routines with daddy-put him in charge of all diapers every other day–on Saturday make him get up with baby–all of this is important for him and for baby and for you! Lastly enjoy or try to enjoy every minute–even the baby blues (which will happen)–too fast they aren’t little bitty anymore and baby lotion and baby powder don’t smell the same on a 2 or 5 year old!

  2. RachelRacheldenmark says

    I’ve done this with all 3 of my kids- I get a blank calendar ( the kind where you fill in the dates hallmark sells them) and hang it by the changing table. When something happens I write it on the day- new tooth, crawling…what’s nice about this is I write down way more than I ever would if I were using the baby book. I do this for the first two years since so much happens I even write down each word they say!

  3. says

    Great words of advice! I agree with a previous poster – take oodles of photos. You can never have too many! We had a photo session done for both my babies at a local photography studio every month. The changes were truly amazing! XO

  4. says

    My daughter just had her first baby, and yesterday when she wondered about sleeping through the night, I unearthed the journal I’d kept when she was born and was able to tell her exactly when she had started (along with many other milestones). It was so fun, and I totally agree that writing things down is so worthwhile. And that expression – I’d heard it when I was pregnant and never forgot it because it is absolutely true.

  5. says

    Thank you so much, Amanda! I am so blessed to have such great friends who all came together for this baby shower… I am still speechless as I read through the posts. It means the world to me!

    And, you give the best advice… :) I’m sure I will be coming to you for more advice on Skype in the coming months, and I appreciate you sharing a bit of your wisdom here. How did you know that I would refuse to share the baby with anyone else? 😉

  6. says

    Wonderful advice Amanda. With my first, I wrote everything down, took photos constantly and filled his baby book from cover to cover. Kinda slacked off a bit with my second and I don’t think she’s really forgiven me for it :)

  7. says

    Yes, yes! The “write it down!!!” My aunt told me that and I did write a few things, but not nearly enough. I kept thinking, “oh, I’ll remember that.” I don’t remember, but I do know I’ve forgotten. Haha….that makes no sense! 😉 Great advice!