Are you ready for Installment #4?
Cause this one is going to blow your socks
off. (I totally just snorted out loud writing that, not sure why)
Things Successful Bloggers Do That I Do NOT Do
#4 Have lots of Readers.
Ha! Because it seems to me, in this
tiny little blogging world, that your value is based on the amount of
people that come to your blog. Your traffic. Your rating.
I have a couple things to say about this.
1. Blogging is Relationships
2. Who Do You Blog For
So you may follow lots of blogs. I follow lots of blogs. But one
thing I try to limit myself in is following blogs that dont follow back.
But what I mean by that is, like, lets take
Pioneer Woman for example. She may do an emotional and sentimental post
about losing a pet and how her kids handled it. And say I just lost a pet
so I leave a long comment pouring out my heart and telling her about this new
loss in my life and how its affected my family.
No one ever reads it.
To me… it doesn't make a lot of sense
pouring too much time into that relationship, because well, its not a
relationship. I feel like its more along the lines of me just being a follower.
And have you ever noticed how really big
blogs don't have a blogroll? Do the big bloggers even read other
blogs? They might.
But they dont have to.
I like visiting others blogs. I
like that when I leave a comment for a friend that 99% of the time I either
- get a comment back on
- get a reply
- get the satisfaction of knowing I brighten my friends day
I like that we are getting to know each
When I went to the mckpicnic I met a couple
ladies who I thought we so neat! So I started reading their blogs and
commenting in every post and before I knew it, I realized that they had not
visited my blog or replied to a single comment. So for me to continue
following their blog just felt…
…awkward. So I stopped.
Who do you blog for. Mostly I blog for
me and my family. But mostly me. I am a Christian Stay at Home mom
who likes to bake and take pictures and attempt homeschooling and crafts.
in terms of 'what sells' these days… I could not be farther from
it. If you look at the big blog contests and the Forbes List of Top 25 Blogs… it is tech blogs or gossip blogs or giveaway
blogs. Those bloggers offer their readers something I am not willing to
No, I'm just kidding. Just wanted to
see if your still here.
My whole point is, I would love to turn on
my computer one day and have 500 comments on my little ole blog. It would
be validating. It would feel good to think that 500 people took the time
to talk to me.
But am I going to change what I write
about? Probably not. Am I going to stop going to other blogs and
creating friendships and investing time into them? Heck no.
Does that mean I will remain (by my own
definition) unsuccessful? Who knows.
Now I must go spend some time with my
kids. I might even post a picture or two about it later.
Who am I kidding. You know I am going
to post a picture of my kids later. Its what I do.