When I got pregnant this time around, I had to find a new doctor. Not by choice. Buts its a long story so I’ll move on.
I found one very close to me and one I liked. I have seen her 3 times since I found out I was pregnant. And in those 3 visits, I have gotten an ultrasound each time. Once to determine the pregnancy itself, and twice because we were unable to locate heartbeat.
I had a routine appointment set up today, and this morning I called the clinic and asked if they would be willing to do an ultrasound to determine sex. The nurse who answered said no way. They were way to busy. Then my doctors’ nurse called and said that we would have to play it by ear, but the chances were slim.
These folks almost balked at me for asking. Like I had asked for a major inconvenience. Like I had asked them to slip in a triple bypass in my regular 20 min. appointment and not charge me or something.
I was calm. I was kind. And believe me, my kindness was very intentional.
Hubby and kids and I get to appointment today and my doctor very quickly lets me know that she would like me to have the ultrasound in 3 weeks, when I will be a little over 22 weeks pregnant.
I was very upset. Not only would we NOT find out today. She wanted me to wait 3 more weeks.
I kinda begged for a sooner appointment and she held firm that 22 weeks was her preference for doing the ultrasound.
I am so disappointed I just want to bawl.
But I am also mad. Was she just trying to ‘get’ me for daring to ask them to do the ultrasound today? Why 22 weeks? Has anyone ever heard of this? It has always been 20 weeks for me and for my friends. And based on our ‘history’ together, I am not sure why this ultrasound is such a big deal?
I need your help and your perspective and your advice and your biblical influence.
Am I being crazy? Would I be wrong to ask for my ultrasound at 20 weeks? And if she says no, would it be wrong to ask her to give me a referral to another doctor who would be willing?