dear lady who flicked off my kid

filed under: I Am Mommy on February 19, 2015

Blueberry Pie muffins!”

Blueberry Pie Muffins!

“Mom, we want breakfast burritos today!”

Darn it, I totally forgot. But it’s all good, more for me. 😉

We headed out to school earlier than usual so that the kids could all get a breakfast burrito. (their first ever!) We were laughing in the car, talking about nothing and everything.

Olivia was singing along to the music as she often does, nothing coherent to us, but the melody in her head was strong.



Driving along the 2 lane road is something I do twice (or more!) a day everyday. I am pretty familiar with the turns and traffic patterns. Its a small, small town and honestly, there is not much to worry about.

Except today.

As I was pulling into the city, there was a car coming in the other direction. All of a sudden, a big white suburban pulls out from a side road, pulling directly in front of me. I had to slam on my brakes to avoid hitting the car, as did the vehicle coming in the other direction!

I was totally frazzled and asking everyone if they were ok and checking to make sure if they were still nestled safely in their seats. Colton, my 10 year old, was sitting in the front with me and was asking questions a mile a minute.

“What happened mom? Why did they do that? Are people supposed to wait before going onto the road?”

I tried to answer him without using words that were not appropriate for children and explain that what the car did was NOT good and could get people hurt.

The suburban then pulled into the right turning lane to go to the high school. I just assumed it was a crazy teenager in mommy’s car that nearly killed us all, and just chalked it up to youth. (Heck, I was a crazy 16 year old on the road once. **shudder**)

As we were pulling up next to her my son and I both looked over to see the crazy kid who nearly killed us all…

and looked over to see a grown woman flicking us off. Like in her 50’s. Giving the finger to a 10 year old boy.

She was staring at my sweet son with her middle finger in the air and a bitter look on her face.

I was completely dumbfounded and shocked and speechless and horrified for my little man.

“Um, Colton, I am so sorry. What that woman did was totally inappropriate and wrong and maybe we should pray for her…”

I was rambling. I am still not entirely sure what said, not wanting to make the situation worse with Bad Parenting 101.

Colton interrupted me and said, “Mom, it’s cool! She was just telling us to ROCK ON!”

rock on


Oh dear Lord in Heaven I am thankful for the innocence of youth.

I smiled at him, he at me, and we kept driving to school.

I just want to say to you, dear sweet old woman who thought it would be ok to nearly kill us then offend us with your horrific lack of manners, I am sorry for you. Sorry that you are so angry (in life) that you felt justified in your actions.

But in an odd twist, I am thankful to you. Thankful that you helped me see just how awesome my kid is and what a great perspective he still has of the world.

So in spite your greatest efforts, we WILL rock today.


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  • kristin says:

    I love your attitude!! I have a serious problem with that sort of thing–the whole driving stupid, and then thinking they were in the right. Makes a bad situation even more maddening. The audacity of some is mind boggling! It is so sad that some are that clueless all around. I love your spin on the situation. Aren’t kids the bomb? Rock on!

  • Lisa @ Garnish with Lemon says:

    Way to start the morning off with a bang! I’m so sorry that this happened, so glad you are all safe and so grateful for the innocence of children. You are going to have a much better day than that miserable woman. xoxo

    • kristin says:

      I love that thought! When something bad happens like that, to think “Well I am going to have a much better day than him/her by the looks of it!” That will help me to let it go quicker–thanks!

  • Alice @ Hip Foodie Mom says:

    Colton is just the cutest thing ever. loved this post. . but hate that there are people like that in the world and having that kind of an attitude while driving a car is not a good thing. Thank God no one was hurt. I probably would have started screaming and I might have turned the car around and followed her for a bit. . 😛 you handled it well.

  • belinda fannon says:

    I think you handled that situation with a lot of class! Your children are very lucky to have you for their mom Your son sounds like a true treasure. Rock on!!!

  • Midsouthmoma says:

    Oh my! I am sorry to hear about that incident. I am glad you was able to see a good out of a bad situation. That reminds me of a time when our family stopped at a resurtrant after church. My 7 year old son jumped out the car and lightly hit the car neaeby with the car door. There was no dents or scratches on the other car but the man jumped out his car angerly shaking his finger and cursing at my seven year old son. My son, who took his bible out the car by accident, was just standing frozen, tightly holding his bible for dear life against his chest. The man scared my son to death! But now my son makes sure to be more careful when coming out the car.

  • Rima says:

    Wow!! Some people or should I say adults need to grow up and be mature.. Thank goodness you guys are all safe. Oddly enough something like that happened to my husband and me this morning, ALL the way across the other side of the world. The lady came out of a side street quite fast and when my husband honked at her she yelled at us… The nerve of these people. I like to think that its mostly nerves or embarrassment.

  • Brenda says:

    I used to have a friend that said when someone pulled out in front of her, “They want it way more than I do!” And another one that said … “Behavior is always caused, and causes are multiple.” Thank you for your response and trying to do right for your kiddos! It matters!

  • Jennifer Farley says:

    I want to see the world through your son’s eyes 🙂

  • Evelyn Rivera says:

    This made me soooo ANGRY for you and your boy one minute and then the next I was ALL SMILES!! It brought this verse to mind: GEN. 50:20.

    Rock on lil dude!! 🙂

  • Becky says:

    You go girl! Way to go Colton! All you can do is pray for people like that – who want to suck the joy out of life for others!

  • Kelly says:

    Wow, I’m so sorry there are still people like that. Makes me so sad but I totally warmed my heart with how innocent and sweet Colton is. He’s the absolute best!

  • Lynn says:

    I’m sorry your son had to see that gesture, but I loved his reply to you. One thing – being in your 50s is not “old”. When you are in your 50s you will think of yourself still young so please don’t label those that are in their 50s as “old”. This “old” lady would never act the way that woman did. My mother taught me better than that. God bless your you and your family.

  • Renee @ Two in the Kitchen says:

    What a great story!! I am so glad you shared that!!

  • stefanie says:

    This was such an uplifting story! It’s good to know that for every crabby, mean person in the world, there’s people like you guys who can turn this incident into something so positive.

  • sue dean says:

    Love your words…love your cakes…love your photos of cakes. that you put God first…yes indeed, rock on!!

  • maria in nj says:

    love everything about this post….everything! yes she needs prayers… but then again we all do…so glad that you are all OK…people…

  • Verona says:

    Sad Me Lady!

  • Wanda Ann @ Memories by the Mile says:

    I so loved this lesson you and your awesome son shared with us, Out of the mouths of babes. They seem to always have a positive perspective. I admire you with your prayer for her and always seeing the humor in things. You are an true inspiration. I’m am so thankful I got to meet you and hang out with you last weekend. Your kiddos are blessed to have such a terrific mom!
    ‘Wanda Ann

    • Amanda says:

      Big hugs to you sweet Wanda!!!

  • Julianne @ Beyond Frosting says:

    I am so glad that everyone is ok! How scary. You showed such composer and I am not sure I could do the same. That’s why you are so awesome.

  • Lora says:

    You handled it appropriately with your son. Congratulations.

  • taylor @ greens & chocolate says:

    Ugh I seriously do not understand people like that. But you’re right – we can be thankful we are not like them and we have the insight to realize that. Rock on! 🙂

  • Anastacia Thomas says:

    I just heard about your blog from a coworker today! We discussed desserts and he insisted I check it out! I love your whole blog… I immediately followed it. It was so refreshing to read.

    • Amanda says:

      Tell your co-worker that I owe him a cake! 🙂

  • Aidan says:

    I respect you so much for being the better person. I am a teen and I hate when young people act crazy, but when adults, who are supposed to be mature do it, that is just wrong. Hope they see this and understand you.

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