Rainbow Cupcakes and Gay Pride?

filed under: Surprise Inside Cakes on September 30, 2010

I dont often weigh in on political issues.  I try not to overwhelm folks with my opinions and views.

I try.

But every now and then an issue comes along that I feel like I want to speak out on.

It’s Rainbow Foods.

We all know I have made my fair share of rainbow foods.



And Pancakes


And cookies of course


I tend to embrace rainbow items because of what it represents to me.

As a Christian the rainbow is extremely significant.

It appears essentially twice in the Bible, once in Genesis 9:13-14 and in Revelations 4:3, 10:1. In Genesis, the rainbow came after the great flood brought by God in order to remove sinful and evil minded men from the earth.

The rainbow symbolized the covenant God made with Noah (who represented mankind) that He would not destroy the world in such a way again.

I love that God allowed us a tangible representation of His promise, and every time I gaze upon the glorious beauty and awe of a rainbow I can feel security in Gods faithful covenant to us.

Now, I dont know if you have heard, but there is a bakery in Indianapolis called Just Cookies that was asked to make an order of rainbow cupcakes for National Coming Out Day.

They declined.

They first stated they dont make cupcakes. (which is true) The husband and co-owner then came forward and stated that, “I explained we’re a family-run business, we have two young, impressionable daughters, and we thought maybe it was best not to do that.”

They are now being ripped apart in the media and being called horrible names.  People are boycotting their business and going on to business rating websites and claiming that in addition to being biggots, the baked items they sell taste horrible and are inedible.

The very people who say they are striving for peace and tolerance are now making it their mission to destroy people who have a different view.

I guess that doesnt sit right with me.

When I received an abundance of negative feedback for my rainbow pancakes I was also fortunate enough to receive some kind and supportive feedback.  Occasionally, it was from a homosexual individual applauding me for promoting gay pride in my home or for teaching my kids not to be homophobic.

I questioned myself how to best reply to those kind of comments. When I teach my kids about the rainbow, its is always accompanied by a message of hope and grace, and that they can serve a God who always keeps his promises.

What it all boils down to is that a rainbow can mean very different things to people.

Is it fair to criminalize and demonize a business because to them, a rainbow represents something that directly counteracts their belief system?

And in all fairness, they never declined to serve gay customers, but instead chose to not promote a specific event.

You know I am totally curious about your opinion.  Would you boycott them?  Should the city be allowed to force them into making those cupcakes?  Where do you stand?

*Please keep your comments respectful and do not attack other commentors.


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  • Becca -Our Crazy Boys says:

    FORCE them into making the cupcakes? That’s just silly.
    It’s their bakery. They can make (or not make) what they want. It sounds like the owner politely declined and gave a respectful reason.
    Me? I try to answer questions honestly that my boys ask. When we have had their friends over who tell my 6 year old that marrying your best (boy) friend is gross because it means you’re gay, I stop them. Because that’s not my belief and that’s not what I want to teach my children.
    I am happy that Modern Family is on tv, so my older son can see what a “real” gay couple is like. And that it’s ok with his parents if he chooses to marry a man or a woman, and have friends that are gay. Do we think or suspect that either of our kids are gay. Not at all. But it’s ok with me.

  • Gianna says:

    For Denver:
    Your point is well taken.
    I did read a lot of hostile and defensive comments (maybe not between you and Crystal). And while I agree with you 100% about needing to be respectful in disagreeing, trying to prove I am right or I have the better viewpoint never really truly changes anyone’s hearts.

  • Bethany says:

    I was thinking along the same lines as the first commenter- I do not like that rainbows mean something extra these days. I love the rainbow cake and pancakes, they are so fun!

  • SkyeShettles says:

    I love rainbows. I love God. I love my faith and what God has given me and allows me. I feel like I have been blessed in many, many ways and am thankful everyday.
    To me, rainbows stand for two things. One, the most important one, is what you’ve mentioned in this post. They’re a symbol of hope. The second symbol for me, is hope for the homosexual community.
    God blessed me with two amazing friends, both of which happen to be gay. I’ve stood with them through everything they’ve suffered through.. From coming out to their parents and getting kicked out of their homes, to being shunned in small town churches and persecuted for no reason.
    When I finally let my walls come down I figured out that God gave me two amazing friends to help me open my eyes. That bigotry shouldn’t be tolerated, and their sexuality, love life, faith, and religious actions are between them and God.
    To me, the baker should have said nothing but “we don’t sell cupcakes.” If the discussion went on further, I think he should have helped them. Demonstrating tolerance, then talking to his children about love, God, how he felt about sexuality would have been the best solution. The way he made it seem was as if its okay to discriminate against others about their sex, race, sexuality, ect. Also, it was just bad business.
    However much I think the bakery made the wrong decision, I do not agree with the actions taken. Its childish to rate their food as bad because they don’t believe what you believe. Two people full of hate does not make anything right.

  • Laura says:

    I agree with everything you’ve said, and I’m glad there are still people like us in the world. It’s sad that a rainbow is being perverted into meaning something it doesn’t. As for the bakery, if God is with us, who can be against us? He has a plan for that bakery.

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  • Lillifred says:

    I’m both an atheist and a person who’ve had gay feelings before. Because I’m not familiar with religion I didn’t know that the rainbow is a christian symbol, so I’m happy I’ve learned something today!
    I must say that I love all your cakes 🙂 They look really beautiful and yummy.
    And I love your rainbow cakes because I love the rainbow. And I love the rainbow for being the rainbow. When I see a rainbow while looking at the sky during a shower I feel overwhelmed by the beauty of all the colours. It’s such moments that I realise how beautiful this planet really is, how lucky I am to live in this world, to be happy and to see a rainbow which is quite a rare event after all. And I know if anyone out there looks at the rainbow with the same admiration of nature that we have something in common. However little it is, you have something in common with everyone.
    For me, the rainbow stands for diversity as well. It has so many different colours and people have so many different opinions. But even though all the colours are different they are all part of the rainbow and if only one colour was missing, the rainbow wouldn’t be as beautiful. People are so different, but essentially they’re all humans. They are all relatives of each other and it really doesn’t matter if you believe that they’re descendant from Adam and Eve or from bacteria, what matters is that every human being is precious. Every human being is part of the rainbow and there is something you can learn from everyone.
    You can’t force someone to do an order – I wouldn’t like to eat cupcakes which support a cause if the producer doesn’t support the cause, anyway – feels odd to me. But I do (quite strongly) disagree with the reasoning behind not accepting that order.
    I do not think that being gay and gay pride events are harmful to children. Or families. Or faith. Or society. Or just anything, really.
    Being gay is neither a choice nor a lifestyle. It’s a part of your character you can’t change, but it doesn’t define your character. You can have gay feelings, you can have gay relationships, you can live in a gay marriage, even with your own or adopted children and be exactly as conservative or religious as the next straight person.
    If you know that a person is gay you really just know that they love persons of the same gender, nothing else. If you refuse to employ such a person as a soldier you might loose a good soldier. If you refuse to let such a person adopt children you might loose a good parent. If you refuse to talk to them you loose the chance of meeting a friend.
    Sadly, gay people are still discriminated against. Hate crimes, bullying, in many countries being gay is a criminal offence and in most other countries gay people can’t marry. Gay people have been killed during the holocaust and on many other occasions just because their gay and this still happens today. Discrimination against gay people is harmful to society just as discrimination against women, disabled people, poor people, people of a different faith or people who’re not white is. This is why I think that gay pride events are important. And this is why I can’t understand why anyone would refuse to support such an event.
    I personally like parts of the “gay lifestyle” very much. Other parts are strange to me. I like parts of what is considered “normal”. Other parts I dislike. You can live a gay lifestyle without being gay and you can live a straight lifestyle without being straight. You can do anything you want as long as it doesn’t harm others, but sometimes it’s extremely hard to realise you’re hurting others.
    Essentially I think that preaching love and practicing discrimination is a bad thing to do. (Practicing discrimination is bad, no matter what you preach).
    Falling in love, admiring the beauty of the rainbow and baking cakes are good things to do.

  • Amanda Rettke says:

    Thank you for sharing your opinion Lillifred. 🙂

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  • Autumn says:

    I absolutely would boycott them. For the same reason that so many of the other commenters have used to justify the bakeries actions, they have a right to decline an order they do not wish to fill, I also have the right to not spend my money at a place that encourages behavior I oppose. Stop for a second and think how you would feel if a gay baker refused to fill an order for a church event. Guaranteed you would not continue to use that bakery, you would tell all your friends, and many of you might have even posted some very strong messages about that baker on the internet. Or what about if it was another issue altogether? What if an all womens CEO conference was treated the same way? The bible states numerous times that women should be submissive to men, so what if, again on moral grounds, they refused that order? Would that also be acceptable? What if someone ordered a Kwanzaa cake instead of Christmas? They have a right to their own opinion and to raise their family as they see fit but it does not give them the right to discriminate, they could have just said no sorry we’re all booked and left it at that, they did not have to say that they would not fill the order because of their children. I’m reasonably sure God would frown upon us, the oh so fallible human, purposely saying something to make someone else feel excluded and undeserving. Also, maybe for the future they should put up a sign that specifies that they only take orders that comply with their moral views, so someone can avoid the rejection, humiliation of public rejection and hurt feelings.

  • Sheena says:

    I have only just stumbled across this page whilst looking for halloween themed cookies 🙂 I think the whole thing is preposterous. How absurd that the baker felt compelled to share his/her views. In the original blog it says that the baker doesnt advertise the fact he makes cupcakes, why not leave it there? He had to go out of his way to make the customer feel less of a person by then going on to explain how the order didn’t fit in with his moral standing. This makes him out to think he is above the gay customer. I’m sure being a christian he doesn’t follow any other religion but if someone wanted a naming day cake or a bar mitzvah cake i’m sure he wouldn’t turn it down.
    The ultimate message here is that he has the right to turn anything down, it is his busness, but he should have left it there and not made his personal feelings felt. It is a business after all and now his children are more than ever affected by the ‘gay cupcakes’

  • Cathy says:

    I only just found this blog and this post.
    I totally support the baker’s right to say why he wouldn’t make the cupcakes. In the next 10 years we will see a big push for acceptance of other “lifestyles”. A pedophile is convinced that what he wants to do for little boys is showing love. If he came in wanting cupcakes decorated with male genitalia, should the baker have the right to refuse?
    A person can’t help who she is attracted to, but she CAN help what she does about it.
    A brother and sister can “fall in love”, does that make it a good thing? When pro-gay supporters start with the whole ‘lets just love one another’ line, they obviously have not thought through the possibilities.

  • www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000198411764 says:

    This is something that goes beyond the bakery,the world has taken a symbol that belongs to God and perverted it. Which I believe goes back to the the main person behind all of the chaos in the world the Devil,and he will continue to do so. I refuse to let him win so everytime I see a gay person flaunting the rainbow I think prayerfully for the person and ask God to reveal to the and have mercy as they wear his colors.
    Where there is no revelation, the people cast off restraint; but blessed is he who keeps the law. Proverbs 29:18
    We really as God’s people need to humble ourselves and pray like never before. Show the Love of God in a way that is biblically true. HAte is never God’s way nor hurt,but we are called to stand up for the truth.

  • Grey says:

    Seriously, he’s been boycotted for not making rainbow cupcakes ?
    I mean, it’s just some rainbow cupcakes.
    The fact a rainbow is beautiful doesn’t justify boycotting someone for not making RAINBOW CUPCAKES.
    I mean…

  • craftytammie says:

    as others have said – it should have ended with “we don’t make cupcakes.” if you don’t want your beliefs challenged, then try keeping them to yourself.
    i love your baked creations, those cookies are awesome!

  • Shantel says:

    So first of all, I love bright colors! I love to make cakes, cupcakes, pancakes, and anything else SUPER colorful. It makes people happy and brightens up their day! 🙂
    Second of all, I support Gay Pride. I think that it was completely rude of the company to do this. I get that they don’t make cupcakes, but they could have suggested cookies.. Yes, they have a right to have an opinion. But they went about it the wrong way. No wonder they are getting such bad publicity! If they refused this just because it was for a “gay” event, they are gonna get a lot of bad comments. If they had gone through with it, they could have got a lot of new customers and free publicity! And now.. because of their reason to deny it, they are losing business. Since I support Gay Pride, I wouldn’t go to that store or suggest it to anybody I know.. They could have gone about it in a totally different way. Yes, they get an opinion but you need to think about what you’re saying when you own a business. It could just put you out of business.. And as for all those people who are “christians”, I’m not bashing your religion, but aren’t you supposed to accept everybody for who they are and not hate people just because they are different than you??
    And I’m glad to hear that people agree with my choice to not support a business like this. 🙂
    Also, thanks for all your colorful and fun recipes! It’s so fun to make all of these!! 🙂

  • krissy says:

    I just wanted to say I 100% agree with Crystal Whittaker Gracioso

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  • Angela says:

    I’m really late to this party but I’ll join it anyway.
    I’m very disheartened to read all of these hateful and judgemental comments from Christian women.
    As a Christian myself, I was taught a sin is a sin in God’s eyes. That means someone else’s sin is no worse than yours, no matter how much you want it to be.
    What if that bakery knew you had a child out of wedlock and refused your order? Or had premarital sex? Lustful thoughts? Or how about those of you who have stolen something in your life? What if the bakery said they wouldn’t serve a thief? Or what about those of you who have ever disrespected your parents, or lied to a friend?
    Get over yourselves and read your bible more. Maybe then you’ll find the path to being a Christian. Because so many of you claiming to be one don’t sound like one at all. 🙁

  • Amanda Rettke says:

    I am confused Angela… are you suggesting that Christians embrace sin?  Are you implying that since we cannot know all of the sins of mans heart that we look the other way?  What does the Bible tell you that God feels about sin.  Are we not to try and be like Him?

  • Laura says:

    Amanda, Angela is trying to say that nobody is perfect. It seems that to her, Christianity means that you do not judge other people for their sins (that’s God’s job), and that our job is to love and support our neighbours, no matter what their faults. Obviously, not everyone subscribes to this view on sin.
    I would not support this bakery because I don’t support ANY buisness who’s politics differ dramtically and publically from my own; and because I have many gay friends I would not be comfortable supporting a buisness who was rude to them. I also wouldn’t support a buisness that made a point of saying they don’t approve of black people, or Christians, or red heads. If, as a buisness, you put your beliefs into the public sphere, you have to expect to be judged (for better or worse) for this.

  • Laura says:

    Oh, and I love your rainbow food, it’s wonderful that you can bring something so fun and special into your children’s lives that also has a deep personal meaning for your family.

  • Sue says:

    I have always found it interesting that the gay community chose to use a symbol of God’s promise to the faithful, to represent their “cause”.
    Though it may sound trite, I truly believe that all human beings should love the sinner, but hate the sin. We are all sinners, but that doesn’t mean we (Christians) aren’t always striving to follow Christ and live by His perfect example.
    Christ himself makes no allowance for sin, and I respect the owners of the bakery for standing firm in their convictions by not promoting something that goes against their belief system.
    They are not hate-mongers, and I think it’s wrong that they should be “dragged through the mud” for quietly declining to make cupcakes for an event they disagree with.
    As human beings I believe that we can choose to respectfully agree to disagree.

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