Life Goes On

filed under: I Am Mommy on September 11, 2012

Its been almost 2 weeks since my FIL passed away.  I am torn between thinking “this has been the longest 2 weeks of my life” to thinking “wasn’t it just yesterday that we heard the news”?

But through it all one quote as come to mind.

“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results. ”




Everyday I am making the conscience choice to be more kind, patient, caring, and be willing to learn from all.  No matter how big or small my teacher may be.

In the last 2 weeks I have taken out the sweet little Chamois Pillowcase I bought for my kids but have never let them use.

I have held my husbands hand every chance I get.

When I think about someone, I stop and pray for them.

When my daughter presented me with a handful of wildflowers,

I let her know it is the most special bouquet of flowersI have ever received.

When a friend shared something that was important to her, I decided to just stop and listen.  Instead of filling the space with empty words, I just let there be silence.  My friend knew she could continue talking, and that I was just there to really hear her.

And while I wish that was my normal life response, it hasnt been.  I have been so busy, so wrapped up in my grief and my to-do list, that I dont take time to enjoy the moment I am in.  Or the people that I love!

Now, to just keep it up!


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  • Vera says:

    Yay for all the learnings. I wish I could say i have kept up too. I realized many of these as well when we lost my grandfather in January. for awhile I listened more, paid more attention, and I guess was more thoughtful too. Thanks for the reminder to keep being that.

  • Leah says:

    I’ve felt guilty admitting to myself the positive side of all this: spending more time with and being there for my family. Thanks for writing.

  • Jenn Marie says:

    So sorry to hear about your loss.
    Reminding us to cherish those around us is a great way to honor his memory. Praying for y’all.

  • Margee says:

    I couldn’t agree more. Well said :]

  • Val says:

    I’m sorry for your loss.

  • leish says:

    Love the saying/quote.. its beautiful.. happy heart def. helps pull through some dam hard times, things happen for a reason.. ive been unwell with a horrible middle ear infection all week, and it was beginning to get me down but made myself be grateful for the small things of life: sunshine, my family, being woken up by my gorgeous lil boy, each day am getting better etc and sure does start to life the soul 🙂

  • My FIL passed away suddenly, too. Nine years ago; with a heart attack. (His third, I think.)
    And, like you, I learned some valuable things through that time – about family and caring and cherishing… It made me so sad that it took my FIL’s death for me to learn those things, and yet I am thankful God brought good out of the sadness.
    May you continue to recognize HIS goodness, even through THIS.

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